BY SARA TABIN
Daily Post Staff Writer
A woman who says her partner killed himself after conflicts with his boss at Stanford is now worried she and her three young children will be evicted from university housing.
Princeton Lacy Moore, 35, shot himself in the head on Nov. 21, according to a Santa Clara County Medical Examiner’s report. A day earlier, on Nov. 20, he had a meeting with his boss, according to his partner of 11 years, Monik Gordon.
Gordon said he died that morning in the garage adjacent to their home on Swain Way in the Stanford West housing development off Sand Hill Road. Gordon said she and the couple’s three children, ages 2, 3 and 10, were not home when he died.
Lacy Moore worked as a computing support analyst at Stanford since April 2014, according to his LinkedIn page. The couple had been living at Stanford West for four years.
Gordon said she and her uncle went to the Stanford West leasing office on Nov. 25 to discuss their situation. She said she offered to pay the next month’s rent early, but was told she couldn’t pay the rent because she’s not a Stanford employee and isn’t on the lease.
Gordon said she and her uncle asked Stanford if the university could connect them with any affordable housing programs or emergency shelter programs, but they haven’t heard anything back.
“I can’t grieve because I have to worry about this,” she said. “Holidays are coming and I have to worry about this.”
Gordon said her uncle called Stanford this week and was told that Gordon had to leave within 30 days. He was also told that her rent was late even though the university had told her she couldn’t pay the rent.
On Wednesday, Gordon said she put her rent in an envelope and stuffed it in the leasing office drop box after hours so that they couldn’t turn the money down and use it as an excuse to kick her out.
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Yesterday she put her name down, along with the names of her kids, on a homeless shelter waiting list so that they will have a place to stay in case Stanford kicks them out.
Gordon said she doesn’t understand why no one at the university has reached out to even offer condolences for her partner’s death.
Stanford’s spokesman EJ Miranda said in an email yesterday that he didn’t have information about the death or Gordon’s housing situation.
Gordon said Lacy Moore, who grew up in East Palo Alto and attended Menlo-Atherton High School, was a good father and partner and the sort of thoughtful, goofy person that everyone wanted as a friend.
“He’s a good person and that makes everything so messed up,” she said.
But over the past two months, she saw his lighthearted nature dwindle, she said.
Gordon doesn’t know why her partner took his life but she thinks something was wrong at work.
He felt harassed at work
She said he had been complaining to her about a new supervisor who had been harassing him for the past several months and saying he was doing things wrong even though he was working the same way he had for years before. He told Gordon he thought the woman wanted to get rid of him and was targeting him because of his race.
Gordon, who stays home to care for their children, said she told him to just “play the game” and keep trying at work.
Gordon said Lacy Moore had a meeting with Stanford on Nov. 20, the day before he killed himself. He didn’t tell her what was said in that meeting, and the university won’t fill her in on what happened.
A memorial page has been set up for Lacy Moore as well as a GoFundMe account for his family. It has only raised $200 as of Thursday night.
The page is filled with pictures of Lacy Moore and his children. His cousin, Imani Lea Brown, said in a note on the page that he was a chef, a caretaker and a dad who coached and read stories to his children.
The SCC Medical Examiner’s officer spelled his name as “Lacey-Moore,” and the Facebook and GoFundMe pages refer to him by “Moore.” Gordon said his last name was “Lacy Moore.”
Lacy Moore is survived by Gordon, their children — Jeovan, Ma’at and Ptah, sister Amenta Winters and mother Zuri Moore. A celebration of his life will be held Dec. 21 at 1 p.m. to 4 p.m. at the Wo’se Community Church at 8924 Holly St. in Oakland. Attendees are asked to bring a dish, dessert or drinks.
Help for those in a crisis
There are many resources available to anyone in crisis, including the National Suicide Hotline at (800) 784-2433, the Santa Clara County Suicide and Crisis Hotline at (855) 278-4204 and the Crisis Text Line (text HOME to 741741). All three services are free, confidential and available 24/7.